Is Your Soul Mate Really Out There?
By Amir Zoghi
Is your soul mate out there somewhere? A soul mate cannot be found if you have not yet found your own soul. Your soul mate may be right under your nose but for as long as you have not reached within, to know your own soul, you will never be able to experience the soul of another.
What does it mean to know your own soul? It means to know yourself, know your Truth of who you are beyond your needs and addictions. For as long as your partner is fulfilling your internal needs, you will create an addiction to your partner. Your inner needs are what you, as a human being, search for to find a sense of security and identity. These are a sense of feeling;
• Security
• Appreciation
• Approval
• Recognition
• Acceptance
The disadvantage of finding a person that fulfills your inner needs is that you become completely attached to them, the same as when you are addicted to a substance or activity in your life. Over time, you stop appreciating the person for who they are and mainly experience them for what you need from them. This is why you may have experienced in the past moments with your partner of them being your soul mate and another moment as a soul sucking *#$%!
When you begin to fulfil your inner needs within your own soul then you will be free to experience your partner’s soul and not just the role they play in your relationship. This is what creates a strong affinity each other, as your love for each other would be one of no condition.
To be free to experience an unconditional Love with a soul mate, you must fulfil your inner needs with your own soul. You must find your inner security and your inner appreciation for yourself within yourself. You must have an inner sense of approval, acceptance and recognition for yourself. Once all your inner needs are fulfilled from within, you will no longer be in need of them from your partner or from the world around you. This is when you will know yourself and be free to have a connection between your soul and the soul of another.
A soul mate is not a person that you will find, rather a place that you will allow yourself to connect with, a place that comes from your heart. It is in this place where you will find the unconditional love and soul of another. It is only in our heads where we all perceive to be separate from one another, in our hearts however our souls are just different fingers of the same hand.
When your inner needs are fulfilled by your own soul you will allow yourself to connect with your soul and love another, this will result in you being soulful. This is when you allow yourself to realise the soul of another person and call them your soul mate.
With Love,
Amir Zoghi